This article reveals the shocking reality encountered by a family law attorney since 1980, who initially was advised never to mention domestic abuse or child sexual abuse in custody cases to avoid mothers losing custody of their children. Despite this counterintuitive advice, the attorney’s experience and subsequent studies confirmed that courts often favor abusive fathers in custody disputes, challenging the myth that mothers are favored in these battles. Research, including a significant study by attorney Joan Meier, indicates that allegations of “parental alienation” often trump evidence of abuse, leading to a disturbing trend where up to 58,000 mothers a year may lose custody to abusive fathers. This systemic issue underscores a dire need for judicial reform to prioritize the safety and well-being of children over unfounded claims and outdated biases.

Author: Dianne Post

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